NO GLASS SLIPPER…

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THE IMAGE ABOVE IS DEFINITELY NOT THAT OF A GLASS SLIPPER…CINDERELLA STYLE.                 THIS IS NOT A STORY OF HAPPILY EVER AFTER…BUT IT COULD BE.

I’M GOING TO VEER WAY OFF COURSE WITH THIS POST. THIS BLOG IS NORMALLY DEDICATED TO THINGS THAT I FIND BEAUTIFUL…AMAZING…HEARTWARMING…JOYFUL.

THIS POST IS ABOUT MY CONCERN WITH WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO A GENERATION OF SOME YOUNG MEN AND I FULLY EXPECT, SOME OF OUR YOUNG WOMEN ALSO. PLEASE NOTE, I SAID “SOME”.

OUR FAMILY RECENTLY WENT THROUGH THE JOY OF A WEDDING, AND AFTER THREE MONTHS…WE ARE GOING THROUGH THE PAIN OF THE END OF THAT MARRIAGE. 

I’M NOT SURE WHAT’S GOING ON…BUT I HAVE HEARD THE SAME STORY OVER AND OVER AND OVER. A COUPLE GETS MARRIED…WITHIN A VERY SHORT TIME, THE BRIDE OR GROOM DECIDES THAT THEY WOULD RATHER GO BACK TO THEIR FORMER LIFESTYLE. MARRIAGE COMES WITH A LOT OF RESPONSIBILITY AND THAT COMES AS QUITE A SHOCK TO A LOT OF OUR YOUNG PEOPLE TODAY. 

I KEEP WONDERING, WHEN I HEAR THE SAME STORY REPEATED…HOW WERE THESE YOUNG ADULTS RAISED TO THINK THAT WHEN YOU DISAGREE WITH SOMEONE, YOU ELIMINATE THAT PERSON FROM YOUR LIFE..COMPROMISE IS NOT TO BE TOLERATED. IT IS EVERYONE’S JOB TO MAKE YOU HAPPY.

ARE REALITY SHOWS TO BLAME FOR THE INCREASING NUMBER OF INDIVIDUALS WHO DO NOT WANT TO MAKE THE TRANSITION TO ADULTHOOD…WHO PREFER PARTYING OVER HOME AND FAMILY AND BELIEVE THAT AGGRESSIVE, DISRESPECTFUL BEHAVIOR IS THE NORM AND DESERVED WHEN THEY ARE DISAGREED WITH.

I RAISED MY CHILDREN TO RESPECT THEIR PEERS AND THEIR ELDERS. TO BEHAVE IN A DECENT MANNER…TO BE GOOD CITIZENS…TO HAVE COMPASSION… TO UNDERSTAND WHAT IT IS TO ACT WITH DIGNITY AND TO LIVE THEIR LIVES IN A WAY THAT THEY CAN ALWAYS BE PROUD OF. I DON’T KNOW THAT I DID THAT GOOD OF A JOB, BUT I’M PROUD OF ALL THREE OF MY CHILDREN AND THEY LEAD GOOD, PRODUCTIVE LIVES. (ONE OF THEM IS NURSING A BROKEN HEART…BUT HEARTS HEAL AND I’M STANDING WITH HER ALL THE WAY.)

I’M HEARING SO MANY STORIES OF HEARTBREAK AND BROKEN MARRIAGES THAT STEM FROM SELFISHNESS AND THE “IT’S ALL ABOUT ME” MENTALITY. THE FRIGHTENING THING IS THAT THERE IS NO REMORSE WHEN HURT AND DAMAGE IS DONE. THERE IS NO TAKING OF RESPONSIBILITY…THERE IS A LOT OF “I’M THE VICTIM HERE,” BECAUSE SOMEONE DIDN’T GET THEIR WAY.

SO ENOUGH OF MY RAMBLING…BUT HERE IS ONE LAST THOUGHT..OR TWO.

THIS IS MY MESSAGE, MY PLEA, TO ALL OF THE MAMA’S AND DADDY’S OUT THERE.

IF YOU BRING A CHILD INTO THIS WORLD, LOVE IT. 

IT SOUNDS SILLY TO SIMPLY SAY “LOVE IT”.       IT’S NOT SILLY…OVER AND OVER I’VE LEARNED THAT THE INDIVIDUALS WHO ABANDON THEIR MARRIAGES DIDN’T HAVE PARENTS WHO EXPRESSED THEIR LOVE FOR THEIR CHILDREN. EXPRESS YOUR LOVE NOT JUST THROUGH KISSES AND HUGS, SHOW AN INTEREST IN WHAT IS HAPPENING IN THEIR LIVES, NOT JUST WHILE THEY’RE A YOUNG CHILD, BUT ON INTO HIGH SCHOOL AND COLLEGE, 

LOVE YOUR CHILD ENOUGH TO GIVE OF YOURSELF AND TEACH YOUR CHILD THE THINGS THAT WILL HELP THEM TO HAVE A VALUABLE, DECENT LIFE.  TEACH THEM TO RESPECT THE PEOPLE HE OR SHE COMES INTO CONTACT WITH.

PARENTS USED TO NEED A LITTLE “ME TIME”…BUT SOMEHOW THAT LITTLE BIT OF “ME TIME”, TURNED INTO A MUCH LARGER BIT OF TIME. (HMMMM..COULD THERE BE A CONNECTION TO THE, “IT’S ALL ABOUT ME” PROBLEM MENTIONED ABOVE…MONKEY SEE, MONKEY DO?”

IF YOU HAVE A CHILD, YOU HAVE A RESPONSIBILITY…THAT’S JUST THE WAY IT IS.

IT AIN’T PRETTY, IT’S MESSY, IT’S REAL LIFE, IT’S FREAKING HARD… RAISING A HUMAN IS SERIOUS…IT’S IMPORTANT!

YOU ARE BOTH RESPONSIBLE FOR THE DIRECTION THAT YOUR CHILD’S LIFE TAKES. LOVE YOUR CHILD MORE THAN YOU LOVE YOURSELF. DON’T GIVE IN TO THEIR EVERY DEMAND AND DESIRE…LOVE DOESN’T REQUIRE YOU TO BE AFRAID TO MAKE THEM UNHAPPY…UNHAPPY IS GOING TO HAPPEN IN THEIR LIVES…LET THEM LEARN TO DEAL WITH IT.

AS THEY GET OLDER, GIVE THEM CHORES, MAKE THEM RESPONSIBLE FOR SEEING A TASK THROUGH. TEACH THEM TO SHARE. TALK ABOUT WHAT THEY WANT TO BE WHEN THEY GROW UP AND DISCUSS HOW YOU GO ABOUT MAKING THAT HAPPEN.

BE THEIR PARENT NOT THEIR FRIEND. NEVER GIVE UP. 

IF YOU RAISE A KIND, COMPASSIONATE, UNSELFISH HUMAN…YOU WILL HAVE MADE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE. YOU WILL HAVE SUCCEEDED AND  EXCELLED AT ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT JOBS ON THIS EARTH.

YOU WILL BE MY HERO. 

 

 

 

 

I’M AWARE THAT THIS MAY BE AN UNPOPULAR POINT OF VIEW…MY APOLOGIES IF I OFFEND ANYONE…I JUST FELT THE NEED TO SPEAK FROM THE HEART. MY APOLOGIES IF I’M TOO “PREACHY”.