Grief.


From the header of my blog, you can see that we are lucky enough to be nestled into a forested area. Outside of that area, many, many housing editions surround us. It’s pretty unique to be here. We’ve lived in this house 35 years and we were able to buy this property when it was being foreclosed on. I’ve felt blessed to be here every single day of those 35 years.

We’re surrounded by twenty acre, ten acre, five acre, etc. “lots” with single homes on them.

About four to five years ago, the place across the street went up for sale. I think it’s twenty acres. The view of that property for us, looked like the picture above at night. Except for moonlit nights, those lit up a thousand branches and the dark, dark road.

The new owner has spent those four to five years building an extremely unusual home. They would bring in building materials by the semi-load, each load had a letter of the alphabet on it. The owner rerouted a stream so that he could put in a huge pond behind his home. Not a problem, it’s his to do with what he wants. Semi-load trucks of landscaping rocks came in. We couldn’t really see anything of what he was designing and we didn’t have a lot of curiosity about it…unlike the parade of cars that stop in the street to stare.

Some people speculated at first, that an elementary school was being built.. One person guessed an insurance agency, another a retirement home. Nope, this is a ONE person home. Last we heard it was upwards of twenty million.

Still, not a big deal…kind of cool. Until now.

Truckloads of shrubs and bushes started to be delivered…a big entry gate with a beautiful stone wall was constructed at the end of the driveway. Then the big light strips went up on the wall. THEN….every tree, every shrub was lit up. Someone told me it looked like Jurassic Park.

New spotlights appeared to the North in the last few days, and three of them shine through our woods. This is what we look at now. By the way, it’s a whole lot brighter than this image from my cellphone depicts.

Our neighbors to our North, on our side of the road, have become inspired and added lights that shine partly on our trees down by the river. I noticed the last few days, that the turkeys aren’t roosting there anymore.

I know change is inevitable, but this almost makes me physically ill. Too many other things are beating us down right now and this pretty much is the topper for me. I’m considering a move. I enjoyed living downtown while we built the new house on our property. I realize there are lots and lots of lights downtown, but you understand what you’re signing up for. I’m not going to move there and then do things that will take away the essence and the reason for being there. I just don’t think I can deal with more and more lights here. Paradise lost.

I know there are people suffering and dying from a horrible pandemic, not to mention all of the other diseases and tragedies that occur. I don’t mean to sound foolish and insensitive. I can’t begin to comprehend the pain, the loss. This doesn’t compare to those heartbreaks, I know, I truly know. This is just a hard one for me.

33 thoughts on “Grief.

  1. I’m really sorry to see this, Suzanne. We’ve been in our home for 45 years, and our neighborhood has accommodated so many changes, many of which have been to overbuild per lot size, or that’s my impression. I’ve had my days of outrage and extreme disappointment. I am just really sharing to say that I at least can understand your grief. It’s troubling when you see the impact on other species. 😦 Ouch!

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    1. HI Debra…sorry it’s taken me so long to get back to you. Thanks for your understanding, I’ve watched this past week as our neighbors to the North have begun to add more outdoor lights. Hard week. I feel for you and all that you’ve dealt with over the years. The construction to our East…the light extravaganza and mega-home has been under construction for four years…The quiet that used to be a constant is gone. Sigh…I will adjust.

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  2. What a garish display! If you want all that light, live in the city. I never understood why people like all that light pollution. I enjoy stargazing, and there are so few places where you can actually see the night time sky unobstructed by lights. I’m sorry that you’re dealing with this, Suzanne.

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    1. I’ll never understand it. Our mailman said something about it probably being pretty at night and I told her that I’m sure people would find it amazing…except when you live across the street from it. Luckily the land to our SouthWest is a flood plain and that keeps development down. There are lights, but I can still see the stars.

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  3. This is beyond the pale. Might it be any good to appeal to the local government or, at the very least, circulate a petition among your neighbors for this person to back off on the inexcusable light pollution?

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    1. I could try speaking to his neighbors to the north and south that flank his property. I REALLY feel sorry for them. He lit up trees that are on his property, but they are directly behind these peoples homes! I would be devastated.

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  4. When we bought our home 20 years ago we were on the edge of town. Plenty of prairie dog towns around us, trees with eagle nests and hawks everywhere. Foxes and coyotes were often seen, and there was lots of open space. Now, as the town builds up around us, we see all these things getting smaller or being torn down and paved over. New homes and businesses are everywhere. We need to move, too.

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      1. Absolutely. I am flabbergasted by the points of view of others that think only about expansion, building, and growing as if that was always a good thing. When they killed the prairie dog colonies, it felt like a gut punch. I feel it every time I pass the site.

        But in an established residential area, there is also nothing wrong with respect for your neighbors. My husband and I wanted to add some lighting around our home recently. Thinking about how much it annoyed me when the neighbor left on his very bright exterior light, I insisted on low-wattage lighting that helps us to see, but only in the immediate area. They are just enough to see the path, no more.

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    1. Thank you Tracy. I’ve been told that over time, it will damage the trees, etc. They need their sleep, just as we do. Thanks for your understanding.

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        1. Leave it to you Frank…if they are aliens, I’ll send them your way for a visit…you’re such a fan.

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    1. It’s as if they are shouting…”Look at me! Look at me!” I understand, stay or leave…there’s no answer right now.

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  5. Suzanne, my heart bleeds for you. I know exactly what you’re talking about. We have similar changes going on around us here. It’s just devastating when your quiet (rich and natural) lifestyle is eroded in such a gaudy way. I know how it is. We are hanging on and putting mental blinders on. I wish you strength. I’m so sorry you’ve had this done to you.

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    1. You brought tears to my eyes. Thanks Anneli for understanding. Not everyone in my family sees it the way that I do…I just have this deep connection in my heart to the forest and I know it changes things for the animals. I’m too sensitive, feel things too strongly. I hate to hear that you are experiencing changes. Your place is so magical. Keep hanging on, I know how much you love your home. I hope no one encroaches on you any more than they have already.

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